No not the ones you put on your resume, but I am talking about interpersonal skills related to communication skills.
You see, we desire communication, but do we adhere to it?
One of the things I am passionate about is the courtesy within communication. For example, we are all up for open communication, and it leaves you with a healthy boundary as well as growth going forward into the relationship.
Some courtesy calls:
- If you are to open up some confrontation ( you know politely ) it is wise to stay within the conversation of addressing the items within your topics. Do not dip out of conversation.
- This happens often both offline and online. Online, you can write someone and often it feels like a bomb dropped on you right? And this is often why people do not like confrontation, but at some point, we all have to learn how to be listeners.
- Indeed, while we can be great listeners there is always that struggle where the other end might drop said bomb of valuable information. You are all up for making things right again and affirm your assurances with your bond. However, the other end just dips out of the conversation, and you are stuck there waiting apprehensively. Another, emotion to regulate is having patience. It is true nobody likes waiting on others, especially in conversations this dire. But it is common courtesy:
- When you wish to address something as dire as things you experience you wish to hash out with another, make time where you can enter a conversation. By doing so, you can focus on bonding with the other person and figuring things out.
- If you need to leave the conversation, its always assuring to let the person you know that you are going to be away for a bit. Or, estimate when you can get to the message, or the conversation itself. That way, no one is hanging by a thread and wondering anxiously what is happening.
- Accountability.
- For some reason even in today's awareness of communication styles, this is often still overlooked. There is absolutely nothing wrong for taking accountability. In fact, it is highly encouraged! You can never go wrong, when you take accountability. Because once you so, not only you will feel better about yourself because there are no looming feelings around. But also, you are becoming bigger in your growth journey, and you have established trust not only with yourself to do the right thing-but also with your bond.
- Accountability isn't accusations though. Nor, should we address things with accusations or assumptions. Those are not accountabilities. At that point, that is just drama being stirred in the ol' pot, and it goes absolutely no where. It happens! Sometimes, a person will be insecure about their feelings or where they stand with others, but that is a personal problem to be worked on. Because it is not fair to address someone in a matter, where they are forced to be dealt with the emotional affliction that they are giving. No one deserves to be the end of being dealt with accusations. Those never go anywhere. Its important to work on your inner mental health, as you on in life.
Those are the two brands of communication, and I am sure there are others!
I know I am not perfect myself, sometimes it's hard for me to be patient with others when being on the receive end of waiting to hear from others. But luckily for me, I haven't such enduring trials.
I like to think all of my bonds, are healthy, and I am able to feel safe with anything spoken to me.
And that's how bonds should be. Of course, naturally it won't always be. I know that personally, but as long as you can do your part to explain your place as well as your knowledge you will be fine.
Just remember you can only do your part, and that's all you can do. But you must not be the only one trying to reach out either.
Pleasant, vibing!