I often yearn for many things that seem out of grasp.
I guess things like validation runs rare, because we live in a society where everyone is closed off, stubborn, accepted the edges where they should allow the light in.
They believe toughness, is the way things work. This is the world now.
But best believe, when they are vulnerable in their shell, they too seek validation, a place to be seen and heard, accepted, and loved.
Now, what is validation?
It is exactly those things...
- Love: You feel like the bridges are coming close together, between you and the person you are speaking to. Being listened to and felt in on the conversation brings both people close together.
- Safety: It establishes safety, and when you have validation in a bond-You literally feel at home, a place you can go to no matter what. Because it will always be there for you.
- Heard, and Seen: It's always a pleasant feeling to be heard, because then you are seen. You no longer feel like you have to be hesitant to bring up difficult conversations, because you will always be a presence that is ever so valued.
We tie these things together, and you have a feeling of acceptance.
Everyone is just closed off these days, they have been hurt, kicked to the curb and as such they bring that sort of dismay around them wherever they go. It is all they ever know, so how could they possibly believe in validation?
I seen it first hand these kind of people.
They claim it is not real, and not needed. But it is just their walls put up, or they were let down in their past. But in reality, when it comes to them with some sort of problem or conflict they often demand it. So where is their heart felt belief that validation doesn’t exist in the real world?
Because it does exist.
You simply need to keep holding faith onto values like love, security, a safe place for all things, and yes including validation.
Just because the world is becoming cold, doesn’t mean we should be stay there.
Always be the flame to such cold places.