Blocking is empowering

 For years, the block button has been framed as dramatic, petty, or even cowardly. “Just ignore them,” people say. “Don’t feed the trolls.” But ignoring isn’t always neutral. Sometimes, it’s a form of self-erasure. Sometimes, silence is the cost of peace—and that’s too high a price.

✅Blocking isn’t about "doing too much". It’s about curation.

✅Ignoring isn’t enough, you need Peacekeeping; blocking removes people from bothering you entirely. Revoke access from those who have shown they cannot be engaged with.

🌱 Your Feed Is Your Garden

Think of your online space as a garden. You choose what to plant, what to prune, and what to protect. The block button is your fence. It doesn’t mean you hate the weeds—it means you’re choosing what gets sunlight in your world.

🧭 Boundaries Are Not Bridges

Not every interaction deserves a second chance. Not every comment needs a reply. The myth of “open dialogue” often ignores power dynamics, emotional labor, and the exhaustion of being perpetually available. Blocking is a way of saying: “I choose not to carry this.”

💬 Final Thought: You’re Not Overreacting

You deserve to have better spaces online. Your spaces offline, is your own to carry as it is. Imagine coming online to have a goal to network with friendly individuals, to seek out connections--that are not only mutual but are lifelong.

This is the era of using the internet, or so this is how it first started for me.

But not everyone will want their best interests out for you. Some people come online, to harass also known as troll, because they are miserable behind the screen have nothing better else to do.

There are also some individuals, whom are not trolls but do not have a sense of self. So, they project themselves onto others.

🚪 Blocking One-Sided Friendships: When Goodbye Is a Gift

While I strongly support mental health spaces, it's important to hold others accountable when they use their mental health as an excuse for not showing you respect.

Sometimes people go online seeking connection, but they might not put in the effort to build a true friendship. If you're empathetic, you may end up giving more than you receive in return. Remember, any bond should grow naturally, like rain nurturing the earth to bloom flowers.

Don't let anyone convince you that you're a terrible person just because you've outgrown spaces that weren't mutual. Sadly, some people never move beyond their own struggles and selfishly seek comfort and validation online—And just that. At that rate you are not connected as comrades, but as a sounding board.

The signs? You know it’s happening when you share pieces of yourself, but they respond with dry replies. You’ve shown genuine interest and poured your energy into what they care about. What you do for them is also rendered invalid, as they continue to behave as if they do not have any friends.

I call this behavior, emotionally unavailable.

When someone seeks a connection but doesn’t put in the effort to maintain it, they often gaslight you, turning things around to make it about themselves when you address their behavior. A memorable line I’ve heard is, "I’m just depressed and burned out, sorry." They always seem full of energy when they need you as a friend, but when it's your turn to lean on them and you think it's safe to open up, they leave you feeling utterly drained from lack of their own energy.

You do not have to give your time to those kinds of people.

❓What is the exception?

Friendship is a rhythm, where it flows back and forth. It is a wonderful thing to convey your thoughts and share your deepest vents with another.

But only if this is a two-way street. If you can compromise with your friend, it shows you're building a stronger bond than where you started. As long as both people are willing to truly communicate—whether through typing on a keyboard, making a call, or meeting in person—where there's a will, there's a way!

However, if maintaining that growth starts feeling like a chore, it might lead to exhaustion. An example of that, is when it starts to feel like you are trying to prove that you are there for someone—just for them to push you away over, and over. At this rate, you are chasing for their connection.

Only you know what’s best for your own well-being and personal space.

Final thoughts:

I wrote this journal entry because I've noticed people getting caught up in interacting with others they don't need to.

Setting a boundary

You know the most wildest thing that happened in my life, is when my former best friend ghosted me, but not just ghosted me—closed her entire social media accounts, not respond to my text messages, or email. At that point, I sent one last fare well. There was nothing bad between us, she just had a possessive fiancé. It has been two years since that happened, and she was a local friend that I had where I did everything with her. A part of me, felt like I lost those things that were special. Lots of people were special to me, but I also realize….

A prime example, of “Let them go.”

Perhaps, not impulsively, but to grieve. At times, I come across as a bold person to others because I have truly been there—completely and utterly been there. Yet no one would ever guess this about me, as I’m too preoccupied with projecting the image of being a naturally sociable creature.

For much of my life, I was a people pleaser—not just someone who reluctantly agreed to plans they didn’t want, but the kind who let others control my emotions. If someone was distant, I felt frozen. If they were harsh, I spent hours questioning what I did wrong. I was the doormat, the emotional sponge, the friend constantly asking, “How can I improve?” even when I was the one being mistreated.

It didn’t matter if someone was gaslighting me, tearing me down, or mocking the things I cared about—I’d still bend over backwards trying to win their approval. And the worst part? All I did was speak up. All I did was say, “This hurts.” Yet somehow, that made me the villain.

Later in life, I realized something that cracked the sky open:

Being a good friend doesn’t mean abandoning yourself.

It doesn’t mean suppressing your feelings to avoid conflict. It doesn’t mean allowing someone else to define your worth. I’ve realized that boundaries aren’t punishments—they’re essential. Speaking up isn’t harsh—it’s honest. And love without respect is just manipulation wrapped up in a nice package.

Now, I no longer apologize for existing. I refuse to shrink myself to fit someone else’s comfort zone or chase after those who make me feel small. I honor my voice, even when it trembles, and I protect my peace, even when it’s not convenient. I’ve realized that the right people don’t shy away from your truth—they lean in and embrace it.

”Everyone wants me to be their friend, but no one wants to be mine.”

So if you’re reading this and you’ve ever felt like you were “too much” or “too sensitive” or “too honest,” let me say this: You’re not. You’re just finally refusing to be less.

Cultivating My Garden: How Boundaries Bloomed My Social Life

Once I started honoring my spaces—my emotional landscape, my boundaries, my truth—something magical happened.

My social spaces began to flourish. Not just improve, but bloom. Conversations felt like gardens, and the people in my life? They became the most beautiful flowers. I could ask someone about our bond without them getting defensive. I could ask about something they wrote without triggering ego or tension. There was room for curiosity, for honesty, for growth.

Everyone in my life now feels as assuring as the sky is blue. And I thrive in those kinds of bonds—ones rooted in mutual respect, not silent resentment.

But here’s the truth: that kind of peace doesn’t just arrive. You have to cultivate it.

You have to do the work. You have to take accountability for how you’re steering your metaphorical ship. If you’re letting others dictate your moods, your worth, your sense of self—STOP THAT.

Reflect.

Pause.

Reflect more.

Repeat to yourself:

“I am worthy. I am deserving of love.”

Say it until it’s not just a mantra—it’s a belief. Say it until your spine straightens and your heart softens. Because once you truly believe that about yourself, you’ll stop being a pawn to other people’s whims. You’ll stop shrinking to fit someone else’s comfort zone.

Nothing is perfect. I am not perfect. I still struggle with RSD issues, but I always take time to reflect, to pause, and then I am okay. You never stop growing, you got to stay on the path. Otherwise, you will wither away back to old soil. Keep pouring devotion into yourself. You’ll grieve, and you’ll fall into old emotions of how you felt before. But one thing is ever so certain: You have what it takes to try again. It just takes one action: To get up, dust yourself off, and CREATE boundaries.

Not in the sense, where you cage yourself off from the world. That's isolation.

But when you ARE ready for some magical growth, a boundary simply means:

• Communicate what kind of bond you are looking for, and if it is mutual.
• Address conflict. Create a plan, offer what both people can do.
• If a bond is outgrowing each other, address it. Do not hold onto people because you think it will fix itself. Sometimes, communication goes a long way, “Hey I noticed you haven’t been around, everything okay?”
• Let go of people that are not communicating with you. People that have become committed, to antagonizing you instead of working TOGETHER.
• Eliminate any possibility, of feeling bad for other people that you need to let go. Remember, they hurt YOU.
• Holding onto people does not mean you have a good heart, it means you are being a people pleaser. It is not helping you. It will alter your brain, lowering your perspective of yourself.
• Say “No thank you” to things you are not interested in. Do not do things, because you think it will please the others. You can politely entertain the idea, but do not pretend to like something just to fit in. Because then, its on you, for not speaking up.

I am sure there are more situations, but these are some that I had struggled with personally.

You see boundaries, is both wonderful for yourself, and for others. Mostly, for yourself. Because by having boundaries, you will eliminate the habit of wearing this mask just to fit in with others.

You’ll start blooming. I believe in you.

Hope in the stars

 Where to find hope? Where there is none.
I look into myself and remember all the times I held on when it felt like my world was ending. 
Perhaps it is there, the hope that lives within me.

I used to feel certain about where my life was going, but now my mind is filled with troubling thoughts. Is there someone out there for me? Will I find a job? What does the future hold?

These questions weigh on me, but sometimes I remind myself how important it is to simply appreciate the present moment. 

An old photo of myself.

     This old photo of me serves as a reminder that things do improve. I took it in front of Target, my former workplace. It was an early shift, and I was waiting for my father to pick me up. 

    I looked into the distance, where only a few cars were parked since it was still 8AM, the crack of morning. It felt so solemn yet so wonderful, as if the bright morning carried a sense of hope. Perhaps it was the gathering of crows in the parking lot, or maybe it was simply the appreciation of the trees. You noticed them more when there were no cars, no noise—just me, the trees, and the birds.

I once had a thought: "I won't be sad forever." And I was right. There were times in my life when things were going well, and other times when everything seemed to fall apart. I think that's the essence of life—it's all about intervals, shifting between highs and lows.

You just got to be willing to place some faith, and effort into your life. After all, it is yours to move. 

I know it's easier said than done, but I also know it's possible! I've faced plenty of lows in my life, but what made it all worthwhile were the experiences with people. Even when I felt alone, I knew deep down that wasn't true. Most of the time, I had friends who lifted me up, kept me occupied, and helped me navigate through it all.

This won't last forever; I believe in myself and my ability to keep evolving into a beautiful, courageous soul.

Healing is an effort

Topic: Finding courage.

Mood: Lighter spirits 😊

Healing amongst it all…

I’m proud of myself—despite everything. A lot has happened over the past few days, and I’ve gained so much clarity from it. You see, in life, you can treat people with respect and empathy, but that doesn’t mean you’ll receive the same in return.

It’s not our job to wonder where we went wrong, or whether we should keep trying. It’s about setting boundaries to protect ourselves. The more you set boundaries, the more you realize how unbothered you become by the noise.

And that’s exactly how I feel. I feel so much better knowing I no longer have to keep spreading myself thin for people who can’t even offer the same consideration in return.

“Quit considering people, where they are inconsiderate of you.”

That’s what I always say: if you keep putting yourself forward for the same people, hoping they’ll finally come through for you, you’ll only end up driving yourself crazy. There’s peace in stepping back—not out of spite, but out of self-respect.

the storm before the calm

"I can't remember feeling real

Like the candle burning bright

Visions of love and me

And another face of the world."

-Trisomme 21-The Last Song